Procedure and organization of a funeral service

Costs of a funeral service — What do you have to expect?

The cost of a funeral service depends on various factors, including the location, layout, and individual wishes of loved ones. Early planning and transparent cost statements help to avoid financial surprises.

Typical cost factors

The costs of a funeral service consist of several components:

• Undertaker services (organization, formalities, transfer)
• funeral home or chapel (rent for the venue)
• floral arrangements and decoration (wreath, flower arrangements, candles)
• Musical accompaniment (live music or recorded songs)
• Mourners or clergy (freelance speakers or church support)
• printed matter (mourning cards, thanksgiving notes, program booklets)
• Photography or video recording (optional for reminders)
• Funeral feast or mourning coffee (meeting after the ceremony)

What services does Memovida provide?

Memovida offers a transparent advice and individual packages that are tailored to your needs. We'll help you with that:

• Find the best possible solution within your budget
• Get all necessary services from a single source
• To arrange a dignified farewell without hidden costs

Options for financial security (funeral provision)

In order to relieve relatives financially, there are various Pension options:

• Funeral pension contract: Clarify all details in advance
• death benefit insurance: Protection for future Funeral expenses
• Payment in installments or government support in special cases

Memovida is there to help you plan the funeral service — with fair, transparent prices and individual solutions.

Funeral service according to religion and tradition

The organization of a funeral service often depends on religious or secular traditions. Every religion and culture has its own rituals, which shape the farewell in a special way.

Catholic funeral services

• Often starts with a Requiem (memorial service) in the church
• Liturgical Prayers and Bible Readings accompany the ceremony
• Burial usually with Holy water and incense rituals
• Remembrance usually with annual funeral mass

Evangelical funeral services

• Preaching and intercession at the center of the ceremony
• Personal words about the life of the deceased by the priest
• Mourning community often says a joint prayer
• Abstinence from incense and strict rituals, customizable

Free and secular ceremonies

• No religious requirements, complete Freedom of design
• Individual rituals, such as lighting candles or pieces of music as desired
• Commemorative speeches by a freelance mourner or relatives
• Symbolic acts of farewell, such as the release of balloons or the removal of memorabilia

Special rituals based on cultural or religious practices

• Muslim burials: Quick burial in accordance with Islamic regulations, ritual ablution
• Jewish burials: funeral within 24 hours, Kaddish prayer, no flowers
• Buddhist funeral services: meditation, incense, mantra prayers
• Hindu burials: Cremation with prayers and ceremonies by the family

Clothing and etiquette at a funeral service

The right clothing and appropriate behavior at a funeral service show respect for the deceased person and the bereaved. Expectations may vary depending on culture, religion and personal environment.

Which clothing is appropriate?

The choice of outfits should be simple, elegant and appropriate for the occasion:

• Classic: black or dark colors (e.g. dark grey, navy blue)
• men: suit or dark fabric pants with shirt, optional tie
• women: Simple dresses, skirts or trouser suits in muted colors
• Kids: Age-appropriate but also discreet clothing
• Weather-appropriate: For outdoor ceremonies (e.g. forest burial), wear weatherproof yet elegant clothing

In some cultures or modern funeral services can also special color requests the deceased person is taken into account.

Behavior and manners

• Switch off cell phones or shut it silently
• Arrive on time — arrive at least 10-15 minutes in advance
• Calm and reserved behavior, no loud conversations
• Condole your immediate family first, e.g. by handshaking or hugging (depending on proximity and culture)

What do you tell family members?

Expressions of condolence should sensitive and honest be, for example:

• “My sincere condolences. ”
• “I wish you strength during this difficult time. ”
• “I like to remember... (share a nice memory with the deceased) . ”

If you are speechless, quiet sympathy through a gesture or handshake is often enough.

After the funeral service — What is to be done?

After the funeral service, the relatives still have a number of organizational and personal tasks to do. This includes expressions of condolence, thanks and coping with grief.

1. Expressions of condolences and thanks

After the funeral service, it is customary to thank the guests for their sympathy. Options for this include:

• Thank you cards with a personal text
• Thank you messages in the newspaper or online
• Personal conversations with nearby mourners
• Condolence book entries as precious memories

2. Funeral feast or mourning coffee

Many families opt for a joint meeting after the funeral. This is for sharing, sharing memories, and giving each other comfort.

Typical places for a funeral feast:

• Restaurants or cafés
• private homes or community halls
• Restaurants with a separate room for funeral services

3. Support in coping with grief

Losing a loved one leaves a deep void. In addition to family and friendly support, professional help can also be useful:

• Grief groups or self-help groups offer exchange with other affected parties
• Grief counselors or therapists help with intense feelings of loss
• Remembrance rituals, such as annual meetings or visits to the grave, can make the grieving process easier

Frequently asked questions about the funeral service

What is the difference between a funeral and a funeral service?

Die funeral service is the ceremony in which relatives and friends say their goodbyes to the deceased together. Die funeral describes the actual process of burial of the coffin or the urn.

What is done at a funeral service?

During the funeral service, personal words, music and rituals used to remember the deceased. It can be religious or secular and often ends with burial or a joint commemoration.

What is the No. 1 song for funerals?

One of the most popular songs at funerals is “Time to Say Goodbye” by Andrea Bocelli & Sarah Brightman, but also classic pieces such as “Hail Maria” are frequently elected.

What does a white rose mean for a funeral?

Die white rose symbolizes Purity, Love, and Remembrance. It is often placed on the grave as a sign of silent remembrance.

Is a silent burial possible without a funeral service?

Yes, one silent burial is possible. The funeral takes place without mourners or ceremonies present. This option is often chosen when the deceased or loved ones prefer a discreet form of farewell.

What is the sad farewell song at funerals?

A sad farewell song played often is “Tears in Heaven” by Eric Clapton, which deals with loss and grief. Auch Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen or “My Way” by Frank Sinatra are elected frequently.

Which flower should you throw in the grave?

Traditionally, a rose, carnation or lily thrown into the grave, often as a last personal greeting to the deceased. Some also opt for a symbol with individual meaning, such as a favorite flower of the deceased.

Is the calla a death flower?

The calla is often called “Flower of Immortality” describes and is associated with grief and farewell in many cultures. However, it also stands for Eternity and hope and is therefore a dignified choice for funerals.