Colors in mourning clothes — Does it always have to be black?
Black is the traditional color of mourning clothing in many Western cultures. It symbolizes farewell, respect and sympathy. But there are also situations where other colors are appropriate.
Which colors are acceptable?
- black: The classic choice for funerals, particularly for close relatives.
- Dark colors: Dark gray, navy blue or dark brown are also subtle and respectful.
- Subtle tones: In some cases, muted earth tones or dark purple are also acceptable.
When are other colors allowed?
- Religious and cultural differences: In many Asian cultures, white represents grief.
- Personal request of the deceased: Sometimes people specifically ask for bright or colorful clothing.
- Modern developments: In less formal funeral services, dark everyday clothing may be sufficient.
Appropriate mourning clothing depending on the season
The choice of mourning clothing should not only be respectful, but also adapted to the weather. Funerals often take place in the open air, which is why it is important to dress for the weather without leaving the formal setting.
Mourning clothes in summer — stylish despite the heat
- Lightweight fabrics: cotton, linen or lightweight blended fabrics in dark colors.
- ladies: Knee-length dresses or skirts, airy blouses, short sleeves possible, but not too revealing.
- Gentlemen: Light suit or fabric pants with shirt, tie can be omitted depending on the formality.
- shoes: Closed shoes remain appropriate, sandals or flip flops are inappropriate.
Mourning clothes in winter — protection against cold and wetness
- Warm fabrics: Wool, cashmere or thicker fabric pants are ideal.
- ladies: Long coat or warm knitwear in dark colors, discreet gloves.
- Gentlemen: Black or dark coat over the suit, scarf in muted colors.
- shoes: Weatherproof, dark leather shoes or plain boots.
Mourning clothes in rain, storm or snow
- Umbrella: Dark and simple, no bright colors or patterns.
- Weatherproof jackets: If necessary, the jacket should look covered and formal.
- Practical footwear: Non-slip, water-repellent shoes are important in bad weather.
Funeral accessories, shoes and jewelry
In addition to clothing, accessories, shoes and jewelry also play an important role at a funeral. They should be chosen discreetly and cautiously so as not to disturb the solemn occasion.
Which accessories are appropriate?
- bags: Small to medium-sized, simple handbags in black or dark tones.
- gloves: Particularly appropriate in winter or at formal funeral services, preferably in black.
- Scarves and shawls: Restrained in color and pattern, suitable for clothing.
- sunglasses: Can be worn but should be simple and not too flashy
Shoes — What is suitable?
- ladies: Closed, dark shoes with a maximum medium heel. Ballerinas or plain boots are also appropriate.
- Gentlemen: Black or dark leather shoes, well maintained and without noticeable details.
- Inappropriate: sandals, sports shoes, sneakers or strikingly decorated shoes.
Is jewelry allowed?
- Yes, but discreet: Simple earrings, a simple necklace or a piece of mourning jewelry are suitable.
- Avoid eye-catching pieces: Large, colorful or sparkling pieces of jewelry may look out of place.
- Wedding rings or memorabilia: These are of course allowed and are often a sign of solidarity.
Alternative and modern approaches to mourning clothing
Traditionally, black or dark clothing is worn at funerals, but alternative approaches have become established in recent years. Depending on the wishes of the deceased or the family, the dress code may differ from classical norms.
When is colorful clothing appropriate at a funeral?
- If the deceased has specifically asked for it.
- In certain cultures or religious communities, such as white clothing in Asian traditions.
- At individual funeral services that celebrate the life of the deceased instead of just emphasizing their farewell.
Casual look, jeans & sneakers — taboo or contemporary?
- Allowed in some cases if the family wishes.
- Should still remain discreet and respectful (dark jeans, no bright colors).
- More suitable for less formal memorial services or natural burials.
If the deceased person wants a specific dress code
- Some people leave wishes about clothes, such as “wear bright colors.”
- Often applies to personal, individual farewell ceremonies.
- Respect the family's wish, even if it deviates from traditional norms.
Memovida helps you to arrange a dignified and personal funeral — in line with the wishes of the deceased and loved ones.
